Telling Lies: Did Fraud Kill Megan Meier? November 20, 2007
Posted by joel in : Uncategorized , trackbackPretending your someone your not has an effect!
Megans story is not the type of thing you would normally expect to find on this site. If you don’t like it…to bad. This just is to sad, terrible, and about 10 other adjectives to not mention.
Megan Meier Was a 13 year old girl who lived in Missouri. Many people already know this story so i will just go through the details quickly to catch up the people who don’t know. Megan had battled depression for a long time due to a weight problem as reports say. That all seemed to change when she started receiving emails from “someone special”
The problem was that her someone special was a complete fraud. Josh Evans was the fake name of the person. He was created by an adult that lived near by. Over the course of a couple of months this woman built up the hopes of Megan and made her believe all of her stories.
The story goes on to say that Josh was a 16 year old boy that had just moved recently to his dream house. He was home schooled and didn’t yet have a phone number to give to Megan. This was obviously just part of the lie to keep her at a safe distance from finding out the truth as would later come out.
According to Megans mother, her mood improved and she became hopeful for the first time in a long time. In mid October everything fell apart. Suddenly Josh didn’t want to be involved with her anymore.
Heres where things get nasty. Bulletins started popping up on Myspace that Megan was fat, a slut, and who knows what else. Megan became very depressed say the people close to her. On October 16, 2006 Megan hung herself in her parents home.
The FBI and local officials investigated the story and found that “Josh” was actually a woman who lived near by. His profile on Myspace was maintained by her, and 18 year old girl and the womans daughter who is said to have been a former friend of Megans. Choose your friends wisely i guess…
Megans parents have been interviewed by such people as Matt Lauer on the today show. Reports say that the woman responsible for this fraud has sent a letter to the parents of the deceased say that it wasn’t her fault and that she basically excepts no responsibility for her actions and feels that they should just drop it and more or less get over it.
So, heres my question to all of this. Is this fraud? If we look at the definition of fraud i think it is pretty close.
1. A deception deliberately practiced in order to secure unfair or unlawful gain.
2. A piece of trickery; a trick.
3. 1. One that defrauds.
2. One who assumes a false pose; an impostor.
MY Take on This story!
Not that my opinion matters but I’m going to give it because, well, this is my site and I can. This is the worst kind of fraud and or crime a person can portray on another person.
If you know someone intimately enough to know exactly what their biggest wants, desires, and on the flip side, there biggest fears and insecurities are then you choose to use those against someone or for your own personal enjoyment or gain there is something very wrong with you.
Everyone has their own issues that life has handed them. Sometimes those things effect us for the rest of our lives and essentially form who we are and what bothers us. Think about it for a minute to yourself. Maybe its the loss of a loved one, something traumatic you have experienced, or a major insecurity due to a short coming of your own.
This woman and her entourage sent emails to Megan that exploited her exact weakness. They built her up over a couple of months and made her feel like everything was ok and life was good for the first time in a long time. That she was special.
Then when the time was right…BAM! They dropped the bomb. This woman used Megans own mind against her to get close and made her feel wanted. As i said above, Megans “issue” was her weight and all the things that came with it. Feeling like an older, good looking, boy was into her built her up.
After building her up according to plan, Megan had the ground taken out from under her. Then to take it a step further messages started to appear saying she was a fat slut and treated people terrible.
As of now, this type of fraud and deplorable behavior from a grown woman is not a crime according to the current laws.
I have seen an un-varnished opinion before that says that Megan over reacted. To that i will say…maybe. All things being equal I would say that killing yourself over a boy not wanting to talk to you anymore is a bit drastic, yes.
I have another take on that opinion, personally. Why don’t we look at what this grown woman did. What could anyone ever do to deserve having there single biggest fear used and exploited in such a devious manner? NOTHING!
This is cold, calculating, and simply disgusting behavior from anyone. let alone a mother. Thats my opinion and i think more people would agree with me than not.
This woman and her helpers have done so much to destroy and yet they still feel that it was no big deal and everyone should just what? laugh it off and go watch some television?
Its this kind of remorse, or lack there of, that proves this woman is one of the lowest forms of life imaginable. The people affected by this fraud have to live with what she has done for ever. She chooses to just wash her hands of it.
I don’t advocate any form of vigilantism as some people online have recommended. I think doing so would make someone almost as bad as the woman who enacted all of these lies and deceit.
Sure, there is a case to be made that she did this for no reason other than her own personal sick pleasure. That is why this post is labeled with the word fraud after all. Yes, there is also a case to be made that Megan did nothing to deserve this type of treatment and by comparison this woman deserves all that comes her way for her actions.
That i will agree with. I think those close to the event should realize that sooner or later these types of people will get what they have given but lowering ones self to this level to help nature along is just wrong. no matter how much she has earned it.
In closing.
I realize that for my subscribers this post is very much so out of the ordinary from all my others. I’m ok with that. This is just something that i did some reading on and frankly, I became more upset by it as I researched it further.
I just had to blog it. Somehow this story seemed like the kind of thing i would rather have you sharing with your friends than the usual purpose of the site.
Share this story with your friends or leave a comment if you like. Any comments that are less than sensitive will be deleted quickly! There is nothing funny about this stuff!
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Our site deals with this all the time. Cyberpaths who prey on other vulnerable adults via social media, online dating, reunion sites or just general chat rooms. Its sick and has put many of the victims we have met into the hospital, trauma counseling, caused them to self harm, try to commit suicide.
This time the girl was 13 and the other person was an ADULT MOTHER with HER OWN DAUGHTER - which is even more heinous. But no matter how old the victim - this needs to be seen as a serious crime. The Mother in this case needs prison, her daughter needs counseling.
Please come to our site and give a read to some stories of predators and how they have destroyed people’s lives and souls (list in right hand margin)
Our prayers to the Meier family.
Thanks for the comment and the resource on this. i looked at your no remorse article on your blog.
it occurred to me after publishing this post that i completely missed one of the most amazing things about this whole thing.
this woman must have some serious issues if she could create a whole story to coincide with her “josh” character. to keep up a story like that for a couple of months knowing how much emotional damage she is causing is beyond sickening.
i think your article on lack of remorse made this more clear. she did comment “allegedly” to megans parents that she wished they would just drop it.
it was starting to inconvenience her that she has to deal with the repercussions of her actions.
We are of the opinion (the 4 of us that run our site) that Mrs. Drew is suffering from a personality disorder. Maybe destructive narcissism, sociopathy or borderline. She’s sick. truly sick.
Do us a favor, when you have time, in our right hand column are the links to some of the stories or months of the stories of some of our cyberpaths. Read through a few (Keith Clive, Gridney/ YidwithLid, Douglas Beckstead and Brad Dorsky spring to mind). What Lori Drew did was exactly the same.
We hope you post more, just for poor Megan. The vigilante justice is wrong but the Drews have serious problems and need immediate help. Yup, “inconvience” her - after she pushed a 13 year old girl to suicide. And then telling the family to drop it - really typical unfortunately, of the cyberpaths we have written about.
BTW have you seen this or this? Truly scary what sorts of people can own a computer.
This is Megan’s mom, Tina Meier, and I wanted to update everyone on the details for the candlelight vigil for Saturday, November 24, 2007.
*We are meeting at 6:00 p.m. at the Fort Zumwalt West Middle school parking lot.
*Please bring a candle, cup to hold the candle and something to light the candle. (If you cut a small X in the bottom of the cup, you can slide the candle through it and then you won’t have wax dripping on you)
*We will then light the candle’s shortly after 6:00 p.m. and start walking from the school down Waterford crystal drive towards Megan’s house and end up in front of the Drew’s house.
*There is a common ground area across the street and we will have pa system and microphone. if anyone would like to speak, read a poem, etc., they are more than welcome.
*This wonderful idea came from students who wanted to see justice for Megan and for that we are so happy. Nothing we can do will bring Megan back, but we can all learn from Megan and take a part of her with us everyday for the rest of our lives to try to be a better person and think about things we say to people before we say them!
*****Remember this is a peaceful candlelight vigil******
We hope to see everyone there!
On Wednesday, October 21st, city officials enacted an ordinance designed to address the public outcry for justice in the Megan Meier tragedy. The six member Board of Aldermen made Internet harassment a misdemeanor, punishable by up to a $500 fine and 90 days in jail.
Does this new law provide any justice for Megan? Does this law provide equitable relief for a future victim or actually weaken the current law?
I reject the premise of this new law and believe it completely misses the mark. The reasoning behind this opinion is that city officials have consistently treated this case as an Internet harassment case instead of a child welfare/exploitation case.
Classifying this case a harassment issue completely fails to address the most serious aspects of the methods Lori Drew employed to lead this youth to her demise. The Vice disagrees that harassment was even a factor in this case until just a couple of days before Megan’s death.
Considering this case a harassment issue is incorrect because during the 5 weeks Lori Drew baited and groomed her victim, the attention was NOT unwanted attention. It was not harassment at all. It was invited attention. Megan participated in the conversations willingly because she was lured, manipulated and exploited without her knowledge.
This law willfully sets a precedent that future child exploiters and predators can use to reclassify their cases to harassment issues. In effect, the law enacted to give Megan justice, may make her even more vulnerable. So long as the child victim doesn’t tell the predator to stop, even a harassment charge may not stick with the right circumstances and a good defender.
Every aspect of this case follows the same procedural requirement used to convict a Child Predator. A child was manipulated by an adult. A child was engaged in sexually explicit conversation (as acknowledged by Lori Drew herself). An adult imposed her will on a child by misleading her, using a profile designed to sexually or intimately attract the 13 year old Megan.
Lori then utilized the power she had gained over this child to cause significant distress and endangerment to that child. She even stipulated to many of these activities in the police report she filed shortly after Megan’s death.
We can go on and on here, but the parallels between this case and many other child predator cases that are successfully prosecuted bear striking similarities.
Child Predator laws do not require much more than simply proving that an adult has engaged a minor in sexually explicit conversation. Lori Drew has already stipulated that her conversations with Megan were sometimes sexual for a child Megan’s age.
City officials who continue to ignore this viable, documented admission and continue to address this issue as harassment are intentionally burying their heads in the sand, when the solution is staring them right in the face. Why?
On June 5th, 2006, Governor Matt Blunt signed into law stiff penalties for convicted sex offenders. The Vice believes that officials continually reject a child predator classification of this case in order to keep the penalty of this offense out of this harsher realm.
Opponents of this law are active in defeating this law not by changing it, but by disqualifying cases like Megan’s from ever being heard.
There are several other child exploitation laws on the books. To date, none of them have even been considered by City, State and Federal officials in this case. I’m outraged that a motion was never even filed, so that the case could at least be argued before a judge or jury.
Those satisfied with this response out of Missouri officials need to think through the effect this law will truly have. It quite honestly has the potential to directly undermine Jessica’s law. It quiet easily gives prosecutors a way out of prosecuting child endangerment and child predator cases in the future.
Beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing here.
Danny Vice
http://weeklyvice.blogspot.com